First blog

I got the inspiration to blog from a friend of mine(Thank ya Amy). She blogs because it helps her to put her feelings down in an environment to where she is venting her frustrations without taking them out on others or at least that is the best reason I can come up with as to why she does it.. It is actually good therapy I believe.  More in this world should try it.
       The picture shown in this blog is of my son (David). He in himself is different from the rest of the world. In his minds eye we exist in his world, let me make sure you understand that. This is his world according to him we are just merely people he can interact with. He is Autistic, non-verbal, and for lack of a better way to describe him; we exist in his world.
       This blog is just not about him though it is about my life and my family, my friends and my frustrations with the world.

        First about the picture, he was asleep when I took this and this is how he fell asleep, I always say he was in the middle of his own little prayer and just couldn't stay awake anymore. For being Autistic and non-verbal he understands more than we do. He tends to walk through a problem rather than try to figure it out. For instance child proof locks on the doors. Most kids try to squeeze them and turn them to figure it out. NO my son rips them off and then opens the door. Gates to block entrance to things. those are no problem for him either. He watched me one time open the gate and boom he can do it. The first couple times he let it crash to the floor which would bring myself or my wife in to see what the commotion was. Now he lets the gate down really quietly as to not let us know what he is doing. Again for being non-verbal he is very smart. At 2 years old he took a picture of his thumb with the wife's cell phone, sent it through a text message to me, then called me up. Like the title reads "The World in which I live."  It is his world and we just exist in it
        Now the fun part comes in. His brother who, yep, you guessed it is also on the Autism spectrum. Go figure. They are like night and day. My second son (William) for lack of a better way to describe him is highly emotional. We must conform to his ideals, you say 5 minutes, it better be five minutes only. He has gotten better at it I must say, although when its a bad day......its a  bad day. He too though is on the high functioning side and unlike his older brother he does talk. It is not always coherent but he talks. He also has the tendency to be able to watch a movie one time and then the next time it is played he can quote every line, yes you read that right every line. Think of the movie Cars being played and each and every time the lines are quoted.
         It is a cool combination really. You have one that walks straight through problems with no regard or fear for what might happen (aka walking in to a busy street and not even caring if the cars stop) versus a strict letter of the law kid who will dot every I and cross every T and remind you of things you were hoping to forget like "Dad, its 2pm you said we were going to go swimming" (as I mumble under my breath I said that so I could get you to be quiet so I could relax a bit) but wait it gets better.
         My 3rd son (Benjamin) he is just a jewel, (as you here my wife laugh in the background while reading that) he has his moments, I will post the spaghetti o's incident a little later, and the fact that he is in  the terrible two's is even more fun.
        Is that all you say not really. Yes there is more, My current job takes me away from my family for the next year its good money and health care etc. but I feel for my wife. I grow to love her more day by day for what she puts up with and how she handles it and keeps it all together. I personally am a strong willed individual but I probably would have lost it long ago with my boys if not for her. She is my everything with out her I am just here.
         Life with Autistic children isn't all bad, trust me there days when the look from them can put a smile on your face. David has done that more times than not. Although he is non-verbal there are times when he talks it is short 2 or 3 word sentences but it lets me know that my little boy is alive in there and that one day he will talk. Also he is the most loveable child in the world he will give just about anyone hugs and kisses. Smiles also come when you ask William whose his buddy and the first words out of his mouth is "Daddy". With Benjamin the smile comes when he is just being calm and not everywhere. I really love my kids they are the essence of my being. Although they are unique in there own way and there are times I want to pull my hair out (insert comments from some of my friends who would say "what hair") I wouldn't trade them for anything.